Times have changed. As wedding photographers, our only goal isn’t simply to take photos anymore. We have jumped into a role where a lot of us are also a giant part in coordinating the day, making sure we are on time, catching up from the getting ready portion from falling behind, getting you water, being the middle man, holding your flowers so your arm can get a break, grabbing you a drink at your reception so you don’t get bombarded by guests, finding solutions to the problems, laughing and crying with you, all while documenting your day in a creative and unique way that caters to your personalities without making you spend hours just taking photos and more time enjoying the day. I have so many of my couples and members of the wedding party say, “Wow, that was quick!” Which makes me think they’re used to photos dragging on forever. Why spend ample time in 95-degree weather if you don’t have to and you can get the amazing photos taken in an efficient and enjoyable way?
Let’s talk about having a low stress wedding day. We hear it constantly and say it constantly and we mean it. DO NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. Focus on the big picture which is spending the day with the love of your life, family, and friends and rejoicing that day. It’s fine if one of the boutonnieres fell off a groomsman, it’s okay if your cake collapsed and we have to run to Costco to get a new one or if your veil fell out during your ceremony. These things happen and happen a lot. They are little moments that overall don’t affect the reason we are all here: to celebrate your love and will one day be a memory you can look back on and laugh about! For all of my couples out there, while there are millions of tips for a wedding day, these stick out to me the most after photographing weddings for 6 years and might be simpler than you think. Break in your shoes, people, and have an extra pair for your reception that you KNOW will be comfortable. I’ve had both partners have to take of their shoes to get a break from them even before the ceremony to discover blisters are already forming. How can you focus on your day when your feet are taking a beating?
Next: just because someone put you in their wedding party, doesn’t mean you have to put them in yours. I truly believe in inviting your closest people to be with you on your day. The numbers on your sides don’t have to be exactly even.
Lastly, don’t worry about looking perfect for the camera. We will fix what we have to, but we love when you are fully immersed in the moment so things aren’t looking forced or fake. We are here to give you direction when you need it, but other than that, crave natural, genuine moments with you and your partner! So sit back, relax, enjoy, and let your trusted vendors take care of you on your day!